The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others. – Mahatma Gandhi
Thinking of others is not only good for everyone around you, it’s also good for your psyche. Don’t make yourself the center of the universe and then it won’t be the end of the world if something goes wrong.
“Humility is not thinking less of yourself, but thinking of yourself less.”
Thoughtful words from C.S. Lewis, but do they equate to real life happiness? Our self-esteem is a bit of a tricky topic, because current research on self-esteem paints a very inconsistent picture: it seems that high self-esteem is certainly related to happiness, but it can produce other problems with the ego.
For instance, a variety of research suggests that self-esteem that is bound to external success can be a fickle beast—certain students who tied their self-esteem to their grades experienced small boosts when they received an acceptance letter (grad school), but harsh drops in self-esteem when they were rejected.
“Muddy water, let stand, becomes clear.”― Lao Tzu
Visualize your stress is locked up in a helium tank. Fill up balloons with your stress and label them (i.e. job, relationship, a person’s name, etc.) Then one by one let the balloons go. Watch them rise into the sky and disappear into the clouds.
“If you let go a little, you will have a little peace. If you let go a lot, you will have a lot of peace.” ~Ajahn Chah
Eckhart Tolle believes we create and maintain problems because they give us a sense of identity. Perhaps this explains why we often hold onto our pain far beyond its ability to serve us.
We replay past mistakes over and over again in our head, allowing feelings of shame and regret to shape our actions in the present. We cling to frustration and worry about the future, as if the act of fixation somehow gives us power. We hold stress in our minds and bodies, potentially creating serious health issues, and accept that state of tension as the norm.
Emotion always has its roots in the unconscious and manifests itself in the body. ~Irene Claremont de Castillejo
Mentally scan your body to get a sense of how stress affects it each day. Lie on your back, or sit with your feet on the floor. Start at your toes and work your way up to your scalp, noticing how your body feels.
The greatest mistake you can make in life is to be continually fearing you will make one. – Elbert Hubbard
Make a mistake – go ahead it’s okay. Everyone does it and it’s good for you. Without mistakes there is no growth. And feel free to learn from others people’s mistakes. Very successful people made many mistakes before they got it right. Very happy people took a lot of chances before they were able to find what truly makes them happy.